On Making Friends As An Adult

There’s a conversation that I’ve found myself having with a LOT of 23-40 year olds as of late.

It usually comes up pretty naturally, when we’re either catching up or getting to know one another.

Most of the time, it requires me to stick my head out a little bit in a moment of vulnerability and admit it first:

Making friends as an adult is harder than I ever expected.

It seems as though every time I say it, the person I’m talking with nods in agreement instantly.

When I was a kid, our family moved around a bit for my dad’s job. He was progressing in his career and it required us to relocate about five times before I hit the fourth grade. I think this influenced my adult personality in a lot of ways. Among them was the fact that I figured out how to make friends relatively easily. I think I’m pretty okay at it.

Throughout high school and college, I rarely spent a Friday or Saturday night in. In fact, I rarely spent much time alone at all. There was always a friend to talk to or hang out with.

When I moved to St. Louis after graduating a semester early from college, I was smacked in the face with the loneliness of having no friends. I didn’t know what to do about it and was crippled by self-doubt.

I spent a LOT of time at home alone watching Chopped and feeling sorry for myself.

Then I realized: making friends isn’t easy for a lot of people.

…And a whole lot of twenty-somethings (and older) were in my same boat.

So from then on, I resolved to become infinitely more friendly. And began to realize that I wasn’t the only one who wanted to make friends.

After that realization, I began to think a lot about how to make friends as an adult and realized that I needed to stick my head out a bit more. Be a bit more vulnerable. Do things that make me feel uncomfortable. And by golly, I needed to ask for people’s phone numbers (why is that so hard?).

Two years later, I feel pretty solid with my post-grad friendships. Do I have as many friends as I did during college? No way. Do I see them as often? Nope, definitely not. But they ARE really interesting, kind people that bring color and vibrance to my life. I like them all quite a bit.

Which brings me to today. I thought I might provide a few reassurances if you’re a 20-something (or 30-something, 40-something or older… basically if you’re an adult) that wants a few new friends or is feeling a little bit lonely.

9 Reassurances for Adults Just Trying To Make Few New Friends

  1. You are not alone. Lemme repeat that: you are not alone. You’re not the only person your age that feels lonely and inadequate in the friendship department. Really take this one to heart.
  2. Someone has to make the first move. I read somewhere the other day that one of the best ways to get past caring at all about what other people think of you was to be vulnerable in your daily life. The author mentioned lots of ways to be vulnerable regularly (blogging was included!) and making the first move toward starting a friendship is certainly one of them.
  3. You have to put yourself in situations where friendship can bloom. Best thing I did to meet new people here? Join an adult sports team.
    Going to meet-up groups, happy hours, bars and coffee shops where other people your age hang out ups your chances of making a friend. Put yourself there.
  4. It takes time. Think about it this way: when you’re in grade/high school, oftentimes your friends have known you for 10 years. They’ve seen you through your awkward phase, they know your family and you spent every day inside the same walls of your high school. In college, you literally lived with your friends, in many cases.  As adults, we often spend 40 hours a week working. Then we have to run errands. And exercise. And have romantic relationships. And a million other things. Our friends aren’t in our lives for as many hours. It takes time to get close to them.
  5. You’re probably not being creepy. I know I’ve complained about this before, but I think my generation uses the terms “creepy” and “awkward” WAY TOO OFTEN. Talking to someone is not creepy and it is not awkward. Be genuine, don’t ask super personal questions and act like a human being, and you’re probably not being creepy. If someone thinks you’re creepy for talking to them like a normal human, they’re probably a square that you don’t want to hang out with anyway.
  6. It’s not you, it’s LIFE. When someone can’t make it to hang out or seems to have an impossible schedule, it’s probably because they really do have an impossible schedule and a lot of responsibility. Don’t take it personally.
  7. Invest in yourself. This blog came about when I decided to start living a bit more intentionally, thinking through things a bit more thoroughly and working toward being a slightly more interesting person. As a result, I’ve learned two coding languages, read a bunch of books and met a ton of other really interesting people. Do something that makes you interesting. Even if it requires you to invest a little bit in a hobby.
  8. You have to be your own best friend, too. I’m not denying the fact that we all need social interaction. But there’s a certain power in being able to be alone with yourself and enjoy your own company..to be content spending an entire day going places, eating in restaurants, shopping… ALONE. If you don’t want to hang out with yourself, why would anyone else want to hang out with you?
  9. A smile goes a long way. Trust me on this one. Smile at people and look them in the eye. Servers, checkout people, coworkers, etc. SMILE and be nice. Karma is real people, karma is REAL.

Let’s discuss: what have you found to be the most difficult aspect of making friends outside of your school years? What’s the best thing you did for yourself to make them?


  • Making friends as an adult is so hard! I work from home and have a strange schedule, so making friends is even more difficult.

    • I’m sure that would be such a challenge! I know book clubs, sports teams, Bible studies (if you’re into that) and blogging/Twitter have all been good places for me to connect with people that aren’t coworkers. It’s crazy difficult.

  • Yep, I’m nodding along with this!!!! Man, it’s hard! But you’re so right – ‘creepy’ and ‘awkward’ are way overused. I’ve decided to be the ‘creepy’ one who smiles at everybody I pass in our building, and I’m so happy with how many people smile back! There are a lot of looking for friends, and it just takes initiative.

    • Mo says:

      I agree about the overuse of “creepy” and “awkward,” but I didn’t realize it as concretely until Erika put it into words. Smiling at people shouldn’t be unusual, it should be the norm! Glad you are taking the initiative with this one.

    • Erin says:

      With you ladies on the overuse of those words too! Being friendly is not creepy or awkward- quit saying ittttt!!! 😉

    • YAY this is great! Smiling is my favorite.

      Glad you guys agree on the “creepy” thing. I’ve always been annoyed at how many people describe completely normal behavior with those words. Blows my mind.

  • donnarossa says:

    It’s hard to make friends as an adult! I moved a lot in my childhood, too. Since I moved out, I can decide by my own. I work (in a small office) and in my leisure time I do paraglide and kitesurf. Both are “single” sports. You don’t need anybody else to do it, it’s not a team sport. Besides that they are more men dominated.

    • Paragliding and kitesurfing sound so neat! The men-dominated part sounds like a plus to me, but I know finding good girlfriends is really important too. At least you have hobbies though – I’ve been meeting some people lately that have nothing to talk about other than their job and I’m always kind of sad for them/bored by them – I’d talk about those hobbies a lot if I were you! 🙂

  • I have been on this struggle bus since they handed me my diploma. My biggest hurdle I’m still trying to overcome is that creepy/awkward point you made. I would be FREAKED out if a random person just started a conversation with me in a coffee shop or a bar, so I feel like I would get the same reaction from people if the tables were turned.

    Since moving to Minneapolis, I’ve been doing a lot of listening on Twitter and getting to know people digitally first. Meeting up for a happy hour a week later is a much more comfortable situation to be in for me since I’m not really walking straight up to a stranger and making small talk.

    • Yes, Twitter has been a great way for me to make friends as well! Meeting up for drinks and such is a whole lot less weird when you’ve had a livestream of their life online…

      As for the random conversation… don’t be freaked out! Take it as a compliment – you must look friendly if someone wants to talk to me. I love it when that happens and have been trying really hard to be someone that initiates. It’s scary, but the experience has been mostly positive for me lately.

  • Mo says:

    My biggest roadblock is finding people who are relatively close to my age. We moved back to my hometown after college, but few of our friends did. In fact, because it’s a pretty small town, most people who went away to college didn’t come back, and it’s hard to have much in common with people who never left.

    So, most of the people we meet / interact with through social groups or activities are closer to the age of 30 (which isn’t old at all!!), but it’s hard to have things in common with people who have kids or babies in their lives. It’s nice because they’re mature, intelligent, and make great conversation, but it’s hard to convince them to take a night to themselves without kids in tow. They’re still great friends, but we lack the one-on-one time it takes to develop a deep friendship (similar to what I had in school), and that part is really hard on me.

    • This is very true – I think it’s even more important at this point to find people that are at the same “station” in life. For example, I recently met someone that was 26 and still finishing his undergrad degree and living at home (which is FINE, but I’ve been on my own in the working world for 2 years now) and we had a hard time meshing, whereas I often hang out with a 32-year-old that’s single and has a professional job and despite the age gap, we get along great. Age is weird… And once marriage/babies enter the conversation it gets even more weird. I think maturity/shared interests/shared place in life are the most important aspects to spark a connection.

      And man, the “deep friendship” development is SO SLOW as an adult – one thing I tend to do is “overshare” just a bit – tell a personal story or something along those lines to get others talking and knowing me more deeply. It’s definitely a vulnerability that’s scary, but it helps accelerate the process a bit.

  • Ktcyril says:

    You have no idea how much this has been on my mind lately. After finally finding friends in the city I had been living in for three years, I decided to just up and move again and start that process all over. It’s difficult finding friends in a new city when you’re in your mid-twenties. I definitely put myself out there but I’ve also been finding that it’s ok to wait it out for people who will actually make you feel good about yourself, as opposed to those who are just filler friends that you put up with until you find “the ones.”

    • Looking out for the right friends is so important to! That’s often a secondary thought, but you’re totally right – gotta hold out for friends that are worth it!

  • 100% yes to having hobbies that make you interesting. There’s nothing worse then meeting someone new and then having nothing to talk about because you don’t do anything. My biggest roadblock to making friends as an adult is breaking the ice! How do you start talking to a stranger? How do you ask for a phone number? How do you do these things while feeling comfortable?

    • Honestly, breaking the ice really is the hardest part. Once I get into a conversation, I’m typically very good in it. I’ve used lots of different excuses to initiate conversation though – I’ll give someone a random compliment, or ask them what they’re drinking/eating/reading. Liquid courage helps.

  • Brianna Soloski says:

    This has been on my mind recently. I’ve lost a few friends to some petty, unnecessary drama recently and it’s left me spending a lot of time alone. I’m entering a graduate program where people are already settled in their friendship groups and I’m worried I won’t fit in. I know I’m there for school and it shouldn’t matter, but it would be nice to make a few friends at least.

    • Ah drama in adulthood is so frustrating! I always thought we’d outgrow it at a certain point, but I guess not. I think sometimes it takes making just one friend to be opened up to a whole group of them, especially in a setting like a class. Good luck!

  • I had trouble making friends as a kid, and I have trouble making them as an adult too. Common interests have definitely helped, but oddly enough, so have pretty different ones. My biggest issue is that I’m really self-conscious about coming on too strong and sharing too much and wanting to be friends right away! (And that probably goes along with the creepy conversation…jeez, I hope I’m not the creepy person in your friend life!!!) But I also find that just being friendly is kind of looked down upon these days – people are so private and closed off. It’s tough!

    • A. You’re not the creepy person in my life. Not even close!

      B. I LIKE friendly people! And I think you’re great at being friendly right away – plus, why not accelerate the process? I like to go straight to “super friendly” right away too. Scares boring people away, but that’s okay with me!

  • Amber Marie says:

    I’m totally in the middle of this adult-friend-making mess! I have always been everyone’s friend, but only had a handful of very close friend-relationships in my young life. We have all moved away from each other and are all at different stages in life. I’m in a new city, a different state. My boyfriend is having the same issue. We work with people we COULD be friends with, but they’re not really in our age group and also don’t have a whole lot in common with them. It’s definitely nice to have each other instead of being totally alone, but I’m hoping we will be able to have some chemistry with people soon. Good advice!

    • So glad you can relate Amber! 🙂 It’s nice to know we’re not alone in all of this, right?

  • Liz Bracher says:

    Thank you for posting this! This is something I have really been struggling with lately. After graduation, I moved halfway across the country (a little over a year ago) and I am just now starting to make friends. I’ve met plenty of people, but surrounding myself with the positive ones has been more difficult! That being said…anyone out there in Denver? 🙂

    • Denverites, SPEAK UP! Moving is HARD.

      Sometimes I wish there were an online “dating” service for friendships. How great would that be?! Though I will say, I’ve met my fair share of cool people through blogging and Twitter. Keep the faith, I’m sure there are hundreds of others out there feeling the same way! 🙂

  • Oh, this is so, so true! And I love your reaction to the conundrum–just be friendlier! Easier said than done for some, though 🙂 Have you ever read MWF Seeking BFF? It totally speaks to this issue and I love how the author decided to “pick up” potential new friends and made it a priority to go on one new friend date a week.

    • I haven’t! Another book to add to the list! I’m putting together a “crowd-sourced” to-read list from the comments of this blog. There are SO MANY that I need to get to!

      • Oooh, please share the list when it’s ready to roll 🙂

        • Look for it in a week or two! 🙂

  • Steph Gregerson says:

    I feel like you wrote this to me today. Since we moved a few months ago, we realized how difficult it is to make friends as an adult. I think having dogs helps because all dog owners want to talk about their dogs and we have a dog park near our apartment. We just met a couple for happy hour on Friday and we were so excited. Time… it really takes time.

    • Ah yes, time. A struggle for my impatient soul.

      So glad you could relate to this post!

  • Erika says:

    This is wonderful! And as I’m learning to step outside of my bubble and beyond my social anxiety that has grown since starting grad school, this is great advice Erika! Loving your blog so much! 🙂

  • Jessa Olson says:

    I love this advice. I completely understand the moving around a lot. I read that you went to school inIowa. What school?

    • I did! I went to Drake University. 🙂 Are you from Iowa?

  • What a genuinely great post – I know this is something I struggle with and I honestly thought it was just something I struggled with becayse I have issues lol but clearly it’s not me! – yey that makes me happy 🙂
    Love the advice I will definitely be putting some of that into practice, I am one of those people who is terrified of what people think so I feel like i’m awkward and messy.
    I have found that smiling totally works because it makes people feel happier around you, I actually had a stranger stop me the other week and tell me I had a great smile and made her smile how lovely is that?! People can be kind.

    • Ah what a lovely compliment! Always gotta keep on smiling.

      You’d be amazed at how many people texted me yesterday /commented on this post and said that they thought it was something only they were struggling with – that’s why I wrote the post! I think it’s so, SO normal to feel challenged by making friends as an adult. You are not alone. 🙂

  • Dude. Creepy and awkward-they’re so often used for lack of a better word. My parents used to tell me that curse words were for people who didn’t have a good vocabulary, and I think creepy + awkward might be the same for our generation! That said, I should probably stop telling new friends that I am “creeping on” them by reading their blog/tweets/whatever. 😉

    • Hahaha “creeping on” vs. “creepy” = TOTALLY different! I mean, I “creep on” a lot of things… but I don’t feel creepy.

      Hmm. Maybe I should feel creepy. lol

      Your parents are clever people. I like that thought process. I’m going to adopt those ideas (and clean up my vocabulary a bit!)

  • Ah, I totally get the phone number thing. I asked a girl (that I’ve been friends with for a few months) for her number the other day and was worried she would say no. Haha, why would she say no? We are already friends! I think it’s the fear of rejection for me, someone calling me out on my insecurities I’ve tried so hard to keep hidden.

    • Yes. It’s seriously so difficult. I’m always afraid that they’ll think I’m way too into it.

      The other thing that’s weird, along those same lines, is determining when it’s an appropriate time to become friends on Facebook. Some people are super quick to add you but others are really careful with who they want to connect with! I’m usually of the “I’ll connect with whomever” set (and the “I’ll give my number to literally anyone that asks”) but a lot of people aren’t! AH the anxiety.

      New motto: It doesn’t hurt to ask.

  • In total agreement with this post! I find it really hard to make friends as an adult and having moved half way across the World too! We’ve had some tough life lessons since leaving for Oz and have been burnt in this small town that we are currently in and it’s really sad that’s it’s actually just put me off even trying to make friends here altogether. I feel a real disconnect with the community here and am much happier just to be at home, reading, blogging or practicing a hobby. I’m sort of holding out until we move on to a city (fingers crossed) before I venture out there again.

    • Ah that’s tough! But it is really great to have an online community – blogging has been a source of connection for me when I’ve felt a lack in my “offline” life, and I’m so grateful for that.

  • Millie says:

    Wao!!you captured it right from my heart. I think the busy schedules make it so much more difficult to make friends at this age.

    • You’re so right Millie! Everyone is balancing crazy schedules. So little time for friends.

  • Holly Ritter says:

    I have always had a lot of friends. I love meeting new people. But I do find it more difficult to really put myself out there and make more effort to make friends outside of my group from college. I did meet some great bloggers in my area who I consider some of my closest friends. It took time though. And it takes time to keep up with the friendships I’m carrying over from college, as well as the new ones that have bloomed since then. But I understand that it’s hard to meet friends as an adult. Life really does get in the way and certain priorities have to precedence to spending our Saturday nights in bars picking out our new BFF. But I think taking the time to have a genuine conversation with a person can really go a long way, just like a kind smile. Really enjoyed this post, lady!!

    • Hooray for blogging! I’ve met a lot of new (great) friends through it as well.

      And you’re so right about life beating out Saturday nights spent at the bar trying to pick out a new BFF. I have a hard time finding that super worthwhile.

      Glad you enjoyed it! 🙂

  • I think the reason that it is so difficult to make adults friends is because it is essentially the same thing as dating. As children, we have the opportunity to mold our “convenient” friends (same class, same team, etc) into our best friends easily because of how influenced we are by our peers and how much time we have to spend with them. But as an adult, I’ve found that I am pickier about potential friends because they have already become who they’re going to be. There’s no point in me wasting time trying to befriend a raging party animal when I know I’m looking for friends who relate to my low-key adventure attitude. So whenever I meet someone new, I’m evaluating them in a way that I envision a lot of people evaluate potential in a romantic relationship. Couple that with how little time we have to explore new friendships and it becomes so difficult!

    • Ah yes, dating. I think I could have swapped out all of the mentions of “friends” with “potential love interest” and written this exact same post about that topic. Friend-making is very much like dating… without the intimacy aspect, I suppose.

      It’s good to know what you’re looking for in a friendship, though – I think that’s really important!

  • Great tips! It is hard making friends as an adult. I’m trying to put myself out there more, which I hope helps:)

  • Erin O'Brien says:

    I found it hard to make friends as a kid and although it got easier in college, I can see how it might get harder now that I’m no longer in classes/about to graduate. Two of my favorite friends I met in college moved for jobs. Recently, I’ve been connecting with bloggers who live in my area (Southern California) who seem like awesome people. But how do you become friends with people you meet online? I’ve never done that before.

    • Hey Erin! Usually, I just strike up conversations with them on Twitter and over time, one of us usually proposes drinks or coffee. It definitely depends on the people involved, but being friendly and tweeting back and forth can totally lead to an in-person get-together!

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  • Chandler says:

    Let’s be friends!! I really needed this tonight, as I spend a Saturday night alone… most of the time I’m fine being on my own but it really hit me tonight. I will be graduating from college in May and the real world scares me. My friends and I are from all over the place and I know that some people are going home when we graduate, some are staying in this area, and I plan on moving states. I’m beyond terrified of making friends in the adult world but this made me feel better because it made me realize that I’m not the only one looking for friends.

    • Ah, enjoy this last bit of college! I missed it a lot for the two years post-grad. Moving can be a challenge, but you’ll grow so much! I’m glad I did it. Always remember that others are also looking for friends and you’ll be ahead of the game! 🙂

    • Kathy says:

      I know the feeling. Being alone is fine for me mostly but come saturday night its getting really hard. It’s like I’m the only one being alone and having no friends.
      I started asking for meet-ups early. Even when it’s not working out for this week. Mostly we can do something the following week and when I know there is something ahead, its easier for me to be alone.

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  • Valerie says:

    I absolutely love this post! I agree that is have been so hard to make friends as adults. There are times I feel my only friends are the people I work with! My struggle is my closest friends all live out of state or outside the country and besides taking the time to visit them and keep in touch, spending quality time with my boyfriend, and working full time it’s really hard to find a friend who understands that I can’t spend everyday with them. I’ve lost many friendships it seems because they want my full attention all the time and I just can’t give them that. I would love to have more blogger friends who understand that! Also, my boyfriend and I are trying to find more couple friends who don’t have kids (no offense to kids!) so we can both enjoy hanging out with people we can both relate to. Who said it was easy being an adult?

    I’d have to say the best thing I’ve done is find who my true friends are and just creat stronger bonds with them. It would still be nice to have friends that live closer though. 🙂

    • Finding the balance is a real challenge! I think quality over quantity is a smart way to go about it though. A few really great friends are much better than a bunch of more shallow friendships.

  • Yes definitely agree. I was lucky enough to meet a group of great girls through one of my friends and we bonded on a weekend vegas trip. I think trips are great for bonding but when it comes to daily life-it takes time to build connections.


    • Erika says:

      You’re so right! Trips are awesome for bonding. Spending multiple consecutive hours with one person is the best way to get close to them.

    • Yes! Trips are the best way to really bond. I love taking trips with people.

  • esther julee says:

    haha agreed! i wrote a similar post that’s scheduled for this week.. but about finding friends when you’re married without kids. i think also it depends on the city you live in. if you happen to live in a transient city, a lot of people are not as willing to invest their time in friendships bc they know they’ll be gone or you’ll be gone.

    • Erika says:

      That’s so interesting – my friend who lives in LA has talked about that before as well – your friends change every few months so it’s difficult to really invest in a relationship. At least you have your husband! 🙂 But I totally get the desire for other friends that don’t have children. Good luck in Las Vegas! 🙂

    • I can see where being married without friends would add a bit of complexity to making friends as well – less time to spend with friends, to start. Also, I’ve heard the same thing about transient cities from my friends in LA – lots of “turnover” in friends and friend groups over time. That would be such a challenge!

  • I found Meet-Up was a great way to meet new people when I first moved to a new city. They have groups for everything. I made some very good friends from doing that. It was so scary going to the first one and getting out there, but you realize quickly the reason that most of the people were there was to make new friends.

    • That’s awesome! I’ve tried one or two meetup groups and have had mixed levels of success. I think they’re great though. Professional organizations have also been an interesting area to meet new friends.

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  • So I’m just catching up on posts and love this. I was actually just thinking the other day that I need more friends here. Like you, I moved around a lot as a kid (military brat) and I learned to make fast friends. It was hard at first, I was a cool, outgoing kid in my elementary school and then we moved and all off a sudden I was shy and unsure of myself. It took me years to break back out of that. For awhile we moved every two years and it was tough. Finally, in 8th grade, I made a decision to just make friends. So I’d pick out someone I wanted to be friends with and just say hi to them every. single. day until we became friends. I didn’t have much trouble making friends in my first few years after college, but there were lots of interns and young people in similar boats. Now in a new town, and older, I’m living with a boy (a first) and most of the people my age have husbands, boyfriends, families and we’re all busy so it does get harder to have friend time. And it might sound weird, but I really like to have a mix of friends, so when I need a break from all things work related, I have friends outside that circle, or when there’s skating rink drama, I can escape it. In D.C. it was easy to find all kinds of groups of friends. In small town Montana, it’s a whole different animal. I have to remind myself, A LOT, that we’re planning to be here awhile, I don’t have to race to make all these friends immediately, that it will take time and my local friend network will grow as I become more involved in the community and people get to know me.

    • Ah, I can’t imagine a small town. I think that would be a big challenge! But it sounds like you have a few communities to bounce around (I like that style of friendship too – multiple groups = more opportunities and a different mix of fun).

  • Kristin says:

    Thank you so much for this. It’s something I talk about a lot (with peeps on the internet!). I think the hardest thing for me is finding someone else who is as “wanting” for a new friend as I am. It typically seems most people already have their own “groups” and it’s difficult to cross that bridge into a group. Or that I am the only one doing all the asking. There is only so many times that you want to feel like you’re on a one way street. I love those reassurances though! And I’m so glad it’s not just me 😉

    • Ah yes, I’ve definitely been there – always wanting to hang out and talk to someone but not getting much in return. It’s a challenge. I’m not really sure what the answer is. Since I’m a transplant to my city, I tend to find that fellow transplants are the easiest to hang out with – they’re just more friendly/willing to try to invest in a friendship. Glad I’m not the only one that has experienced this!

  • Kathy says:

    Thank you so much for this. It really is what I have been struggeling with the last few years. I’m getting better at it but its hard. Right now I am quite setteld with a few girls friends but all of them are moving come summer and autum so I have to stay open minded and ask for phone numbers. As you said. Why is it so hard?
    But it feels good to know that I’m not alone 🙂 We can do this!!

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  • Julie says:

    I absolutely love this post, especially as I’ve just moved to Seattle after graduating from college in Denver – this is such a timely post for me to stumble upon! I’m going to take these points to heart and remind myself that as non-outgoing as I believe myself to be, there’s nothing that should stop me from meeting new people.

    • Erika says:

      Congrats on your move! I’m sure you’ll meet a bunch of great people. 🙂

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  • Camila says:

    Love this post! Making friend as an ‘adult’ is so hard! It’s like what Mindy Kaling had tweeted once ‘I wish we could go back to college and meet then, it would be so much easier’ (I’m paraphrasing obviously). I know I’ve been meeting people through activities, like dance class, etc. I struggle a lot with going outside my comfort zone, being so introverted!

  • Tara Edie says:

    This post is amazing, and so true! Life after school is 10x busier and 100x harder in terms of meeting like-minded people – ie, friend fodder. Great tips, I plan to really bring them all into my conscious efforts.


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  • Lizard Queen says:

    woah, this is awesome! my boyfriend always talks about my lack of trying to meet new people (moved to a new city) and he’s always pushing me to make new friends.

    • Erika says:

      Glad you found it helpful! 🙂 Good luck!

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